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~ Wednesday Night Youth Bible Study Rebirth ☺

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March 13, 2013 — we again started the Wednesday Night Youth Bible Study. Kuya Danny, our speaker, tackled about on “How to Make People Like You Instantly”. The topic was very fitting, not only for the young ones but also to those who are ones young… 🙂

I would like to share to you certain points we tackled. Negative vs. Positive & Positive vs. Negative:

THE NEGATIVE PERSONALITY

* Physical manifestations.speaker

  • Facial expressions
  • Body language.
  • Tone of voice.
  • Grooming and appearance.
  • Temperament.
  • Other general manifestations.

Why do people have a negative attitude?

*  The basic cause.

  • The underlying cause of a negative mental attitude (or personality) is a deep-seated feeling
  • Of inferiority or low self-image.
  • It is this deep lack of self-esteem and confidence that causes people to transmit a negative
  • Magnetic field.

* Many of these inhibitions originate in childhood and carry over into adult life.

  • Parents neglected to instil a positive outlook on life and a right kind of self-confidence.
  • Lack of love and outward affection in the home.
  • Lack of encouragement and proper motivation.
  • Lack of recognition for a job well done.
  • Lack of sufficient well-rounded experiences to broaden one’s background.
  • Lack of training in learning how to love and get along with others.
  • Ridicule, rejection and discrimination at school, on the playground, at church, etc.
  • More pangs of failure than joys of success.

*  Whatever the causes — a negative mental attitude essentially boils down to disrespect for self or self-hatred.

THE POSITIVE ATTITUDE

*  Points to put into practice.

  • Gear your mind to think of others first.WNYBS2
  • Express genuine interest in other people.
  • Smile.
  • Be the first to speak.
  • Radiate warmth and positive friendship.
  • Be responsive and approachable.
  • Get others talking about subjects they’re familiar with or are interested in.
  • Sincerely compliment people and notice little things.
  • Make other people feel important and do it sincerely.
  • Be a good listener: Encourage others to talk about themselves.
  • See the good qualities in people.
  • Consider the fragile feelings of others before you disagree.
  • Get to know people and accept them for what they are.
  • Be an interesting conversationalist without calling attention to yourself.
  • Be open, honest and genuinely humble.
  • Think of each person you meet as a potential son of God.

TWO FINAL WRAP-UP POINTS:

  • Not every person we meet will become a close personal friend.
  • Realize that to implement these suggestions will take time.

In summary, what must you do to get people to like you?

  • Solomon summarized it beautifully and succinctly when he said: “He who has friends must show himself friendly” (Prov. 18:24).

  • Christ said: “Love your neighbour as yourself” (Matt. 22:39).

  • The key is to turn the question around: “The way to get people to like you is to genuinely develop an interest in them.”

  • If you do this, you will never lack for friends.

 

(Source: http://www.hwarmstrong.org/rice20.pdf )